You're doing the wisest, best thing (that SO many people don't) just talking. Dying is a part of living, and we do have choices - but only if we talk about them ahead of time. Talk, plan, write things down -- and then just enjoy the day. Worked for me, during six years of caregiving, and in volunteering with end-of-life issues: I'm on this soapbox every day. Thanks for this good piece!