I probably should keep my literary mouth shut, but here goes: I survived two divorces largely by saying "You can have it" WAY more often than I should have. I do not recommend this, but would do it all over again. Though I could've been financially much better off, I knew I could make a living and desperately wanted to get on with my life. (My kids, all with husband #1, were nearing adulthood and OK then.) My hope for you is that you can get past this as quickly and efficiently as possible and just LOOK FORWARD! Divorce doesn't define you; your good qualities define you. Go, girl.