First, find an accommodating friend, preferably with a secluded guestroom. I could recommend a retired couple an hour south of San Francisco, but they might not want to be outed. Invite yourself for a sleepover. Sounding overwhelmed and pathetic helps. Leave the car at home. Take the train; no traffic, no stress. Trains are still the best. Find a nearby museum agreeable to all. Stanford’s Cantor Center worked for me. Excepting the major metropolitan establishments, museums today offer calm, quiet peace. A nature walk may be added or substituted. This equals both entertainment plan and excuse for self-invitation.
